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Woman With A Plan - Issue #10

“How wrong is it for a woman to expect the man to build the world she wants, rather than to create it

Woman With A Plan

December 15 · Issue #10 · View online
Weekly thoughts, ideas, and information from one woman to another.

“How wrong is it for a woman to expect the man to build the world she wants, rather than to create it herself?” Anaïs Nin

The Dog Days Are Over
It’s been two months since Harvey Weinstein was fired and not a day has gone by that I haven’t thought about the impact of our cultural come to Jesus moment. How long will it continue and will it bring lasting change? Are we really one bad PR story from the whole thing collapsing? Will there be a backlash against women in response? As each new accusation comes to light, I’m equally disgusted and invigorated. It’s still working! For once, we are listening to women brave enough to come forward, even when it implicates men we never imagined to be a threat. We’re pulling back the curtain to reveal the wide scope of sexual misconduct and the spectrum of men who commit it, AND we’re not raking women over the coals for reporting it. As someone who grew up watching Anita Hill’s testimony, it is akin to an alternative planet. Of course, there are plenty of people voicing anger or concern. Some question whether all men deserve the same career-ending outcome for crossing the line. Is it fair to apply the same punishment to Al Franken as Louis C.K.? I’m willing to acknowledge a grayscale of inappropriate behavior, but here’s the thing: NONE of it is ok. Either way, you’re going to get a professional time out to sit in a corner and think about what you did. As actress Amber Tamblyn states,
 The only way to enforce seismic, cultural change in the way men relate to women is to draw a line deep in the sand and say: This is what we will no longer tolerate. You’re either with our bodies or against our bodies. The punishment for harassment is you disappear. The punishment for rape is you disappear. The punishment for masturbation in front of us is you disappear. The punishment for coercion is you disappear.
We’ve seen a future where women are believed and men are held accountable, and personally, I never want to go back. I’m a feminist, which by definition means that I believe in equality for men and women. I’m not out to destroy the lives of men; I just want them to stop destroying the lives of women. 
We're coming for you next, Mr. President. 💪💪💪
Media Diet
HO. LEE. SHIT. I still can’t believe this happened. It’s is the Christmas miracle we all needed! (Or in this case, Hanukkah) Thank you, Leigh Corfman, Wendy Miller, Debbie Wesson Gibson, Gloria Thacker Deason, Beverly Young Nelson, Tina Johnson, Gena Richardson and Becky Gray for your bravery. And thank you to the voters of Alabama - especially black men and WOMEN 💪🏾💪🏿 - for giving the rest of the country much-needed hope. 
And as if that wasn’t enough good news!
The war for net neutrality took a big hit this week. Once again, our Washington State Attorney General steps up to intervene. Go, Bob!
Kudos to Eater for their thorough reporting on sexual misconduct allegations against Chef Mario Batali. Truly sinister stuff coming out of this story. 
Salma Hayek is the latest high-profile actress to speak out against Harvey Weinstein with this brave testimonial.
I literally thought about creating something like this hours before I discovered it already exists. I ❤️ the internet.
When it comes to describing the experience of sex in college and the fuzzy lines of consent, writer Kristen Roupenian nailed it in this week’s New Yorker. A must read.
This Modern Love essay was one of the best things I read all year. The audio recording by actress Debra Winger is a beautiful tribute to its writer, Amy Krouse Rosenthal.
Star Wars: The Last Jedi hit theaters last night and it pains me to think how long it may be before I see it. In the meantime, these two had me in tears.
Great tip for a new show to watch. We’re also enjoying this one - perfect for anyone going through Mad Men withdrawal.
On a final note, yesterday marked five years since a gunman killed 20 school children and six educators in a town 30 minutes from where I grew up. I will never forget it and I hope you don’t either. Please join me in signing the Sandy Hook Promise to protect children from gun violence. ❤️
photo by @raylivez
Open Tabs
My boss and I have a running agreement that wherever we travel, we seek out local beauty secrets (it all started with the French pharmacy list from goop). While searching online for authentic German Nivea Creme (as one does), I discovered this fantastic site for drugstore goods from around the world. I’ll be including my favorite body wash from Spain to my first order.
I’ve been scouring a bazillion gift guides since Thanksgiving, and these are two of my favorite finds. 
A millennial’s gift guide for teens (a forewarning: v. challenging for non-millennials to translate). 
This may be the coolest yoga mat ever, but can it make the kessel run in less than 12 parsecs?
I spotted this pretty find in a recent REI catalog (I love a good down blanket when camping). 
Lastly, a gift I’d recommend for anyone with feet: the best slippers in the world. They’re a bit pricey, but soo worth it. I wear them nonstop at home and I’ve even started bringing them to dinner parties. #classy
#saturdays 📚🐛
Have a Wonderful Weekend.
Woman With A Plan is weekly newsletter by Sarah Richey, a Seattle-based working mom of three feminists in the making.
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