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Woman With A Plan - Issue #23

“How a person treats their waitress is a great indication of their character.” ― Amy Poehler

Woman With A Plan

March 23 · Issue #23 · View online
Weekly thoughts, ideas, and information from one woman to another.

“How a person treats their waitress is a great indication of their character.”
― Amy Poehler

She Works Hard For The Money
Like most college students, I needed a part-time job between classes back in the day and the most lucrative option was waiting tables. The hours were long and I smelled like a deep fryer at the end of the night, but the tips were impossible to beat, especially as an attractive co-ed. It was the brewpub boom of the late 90s and I became an expert in explaining fermentation tanks to curious guests. I also flirted my ass off. It didn’t take a degree to understand the correlation between affectionate behavior and a larger pile of cash at the end of the night. There was always the risk of certain patrons responding with too much affection; an awkward request for a date, blatant sexual innuendos, or an unwelcome hand on the shoulder. Those were the nights I asked a male co-worker to walk me home. In the midst of the #metoo movement, as memories of inappropriate encounters from my post-graduate career have resurfaced, it wasn’t until I read this NY Times article that I was hit by memories of my first career and the steady stream of harassment that came with it. Workplace impropriety was par for the course in the restaurant world. How was I not outraged? Was I complicit? Did I encourage men to treat me disrespectfully by putting on the charm instead of putting my foot down? When one person’s livelihood depends on another person’s satisfaction, who is to blame? I was just a college student, but what if I had kids to support? I’m pretty sure I’d do whatever it takes to get bigger tips if my family depended on it. Some restaurants have made strides to eliminate the need for tips altogether, though the results are mixed. Over time, I’m hopeful it will become a more successful model to reach the mainstream. Until we reach a perfect solution, maybe we should remember to tip a bit more so our servers can afford to maintain their dignity among those who don’t.
Media Diet
Cynthia Nixon announced her candidacy for governor of New York state this week, and while the thought of Miranda Hobbes in office truly excites me, concerns over celebrity candidates are more valid than ever in a Trump era. As Frank Bruni astutely puts it, “Genius in one arena doesn’t guarantee competence in another. Nor does experience, but it’s the safer bet.”
Yowza, it’s been a rough week for Mark Zuckerberg. I appreciate his earnest response, but it’s hard to forgive and forget while we witness the world falling apart as a result. How many of you have decided to unfriend Facebook?
Our kids attend one of many STEM schools in the area, but it thrills me to see the results of this study yielding surprising results among Google’s top performing teams. Liberal Arts FTW!
Have you heard of The Newsette? It’s sort of like The Skimm meets Glossier in daily newsletter form. Recommended!
This week’s episode of the goop podcast addresses the topics of postpartum anxiety and the motherhood shift more articulately than anything I’ve heard in the past. I was shouting in agreement as I listened (while stuck in traffic). Highly recommended for any moms or moms-to-be. We are not vessels to be discarded! 
David Bowie lived in a perpetual state of augmented reality and now you can too.
Happy 89th Birthday to Yayoi Kusama, may she live to infinity. (See what I did there?)
Best headline of the week.
My heart will be with all the students of Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School on Saturday. #neveragain ❤️✊
Right on, sister ✊
Open Tabs
Happy Spring! I’m not much of a dress person, but this is the perfect print to ring in the season. 
The days are getting sunnier which means it’s time to invest in a new hat (not going to ruin all my hard work to reduce sun damage). I usually opt for a selection from Madewell, but here are a few others I’ve been considering.
Target outdoor furniture is back and this set looks terrific.
Ooh, love these Sephora shopping tips
This biker jacket from H&M could easily pass as something from luxury brand IRO.
Everlane has added underwear to their lineup of high-quality basics (modeled by Jemima Kirke!)
I recently discovered surfer brand Mollusk and I pretty much want to buy up their entire store.
I need this sweatshirt in my life. Update: sold out! 😭
Coffee Date ☕💗
Have a Wonderful Weekend.
Woman With A Plan is weekly newsletter by Sarah Richey, a Seattle-based working mom of three feminists in the making.
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