A couple years ago on a rare date night (sans kids), I convinced my husband to try an experiment I had read about in a NY Times Modern Love
column. It was a survey of sorts, including 36 Questions to Fall in Love
. The original author had used it on a first date and - spoiler alert
- it worked. Questions range from, “What would constitute a ‘perfect’ day for you?”
to “What is your most terrible memory?”
Our dinner that evening progressed for hours as we laughed and cried over shared memories and life-changing experiences. We’ve known each other for 19 years, but somehow the questions revealed new or unspoken thoughts, desires, and fears. And yes, we stared into each other’s eyes for a solid FOUR minutes (only slightly awkward for the first minute or two). I didn’t need help falling in love with my husband, but if it’s possible, I loved him even more by the end of the night. Perhaps as important, I felt equally loved by him. I still think about those 36 Questions often, recommending them to friends and new parents. In a time when our lives seem to get busier by the day, it’s reassuring to have a simple method to reconnect. One of these nights, I hope we take the time to answer them again. After watching this video of senior couples
giving it a try, I’m convinced it’s a worthy lifelong practice.
A heads up to my loyal readers, I will be on hiatus over the next few weeks. Thank you for your continued support of WWAP. Be back soon! 😘