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Woman With A Plan - Issue #37

"The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends towards justice."  — Theodore Parker

Woman With A Plan

August 3 · Issue #37 · View online
Weekly thoughts, ideas, and information from one woman to another.

“The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends towards justice.” 
— Theodore Parker

Say Her Name
I was going through my nightly routine earlier this week, attempting to sleep while random thoughts raced through my mind… Don’t forget to buy more cereal tomorrow. Is Bronson Pinchot actually from Greece? Where did I pack our copy of The Hobbit back in Seattle? I was finally drifting off when a name surfaced: Lorena Bobbitt. What ever happened to Lorena Bobbitt? Like Anita Hill and Monica Lewinsky, Lorena Bobbitt was a punchline in the dark history of mid-nineties feminism. Abused and distraught, she cut off her husband’s penis and drove off into the night. Hours later, it was found in a field and surgically reattached to its owner, John Wayne Bobbitt. My memories of that episode are a blur of Court TV coverage, relentless late night comedy, and Howard Stern interviews (I was a high school freshman at the time). I remember rolling my eyes at every terrible joke while pitying this poor, defeated woman. We were living in a time when men triumphed and women paid the consequences. He was offered talk show appearances and porn contracts while she was parodied and ridiculed, vilified for resisting her abuser. How would she ever live it down? I lay awake wondering what her fate was all these years later, 25 to be exact. The following morning, I was surprised to find a slew of interviews and articles highlighting the recent anniversary. There’s even an Amazon documentary in the works. John Wayne continued a string of failed attempts to leverage his penile infamy while continuing a pattern of assaulting wives and girlfriends. Lorena remarried, had a daughter, and started a nonprofit to prevent domestic violence. Though their names are inextricably linked, she now uses hers to help other women. It’s pretty clear who triumphed in the end. Like Anita and Monica, Lorena is a name to remind us of our complicated past. Let’s remember them and appreciate how far we’ve come, how differently we respond, and the higher standard of empathy, humanity, and equality we’ve earned at their expense.
via @florencegiven
Media Diet
As accusations of sexual misconduct surface from one powerful male CEO to another, it never comes as much of a surprise, even when the CEO in question is a prominent voice in the #metoo movement. As I read this article, I kept thinking of something my friend Drew perfectly stated:
“It is one thing to call for supporting women. It is a grave mistake to do so without understanding your part in systemic, enduring abuse. Yes, believe women. Yes, follow the money. Yes, be better. But truly: examine your own behavior. Educate yourself without demanding the emotional labor of women. There is no statute of limitations on owning your past.”
Kudos to Lebron James on the opening of his I Promise School, a full-fledged public school serving low-income and at-risk youth in his Ohio hometown. May it be the first of many. 👏👏👏
Ooh, this is very exciting news (and a good reminder to change my subscription address).
Dream Team Alert: Lindy West and Aidy Bryant have partnered on a TV version of Shrill to air on Hulu.
Guys, I can’t believe I’m taking advice from a creepy CG-animated Barbie, but this is the world we live in.
Loved this amusing Ted Talk from artist Christoph Niemann, one of my favorites.
Feeling muy inspirado by this lovely home in Mexico City.
Oh, how I miss these moments! Nowadays, I’m dealing more with these.
Waiting for a thunderstorm to pass ⛈️
Open Tabs
I spotted a woman wearing my ideal uniform during a visit to the Schönbrunn Zoo recently; a soft striped button down, high waist wide leg pants, and Birkenstocks. (I didn’t have the nerve to grill her on her actual fashion choices, but these come pretty close.)
Somebody please take advantage of a crazy good deal on this chunky bracelet.
It was 91° yesterday, so naturally I was trying on sweaters at H&M. Love this bright one for the fall.
Just a perfect striped top and a nice looking pair of light wash jeans, both on sale.
It’s August, which means all of Europe is on vacation. I’ll be following suit, enjoying a visit from my in-laws and a family trip to Italy. 😀🍝🇮🇹
Enjoy these dog days and see you in a few weeks!
Time to hit the pool! 🐳
Have a Wonderful Weekend
Woman With A Plan is a newsletter by Sarah Richey, an American expat and mom of three feminists in the making.
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